I just finished my second year of college, and I can honestly say that it's been the best and the most difficult year of my life. God put some amazing people in my life and I decided to renew my walk with Him.
I had a miserable freshman year. My roommate and I hated each other, I despised living in a small town, and loneliness was the only real friend I had. Because of that, I threw--no--drowned myself in my studies that year. At least schoolwork could distract me from the profound isolation that I felt each day. I wasn't involved in any organizations. I had gone to Campus Crusade once, but I left right after the worship. I had been on fire for God when I was younger but became angry at Him for some stuff that happened in high school. I couldn't face Him. Not yet. He was in no way important to me that first year.
For my freshman zoology final I had to do an insect collect. I would often go around campus alone, but one day the girl who sat behind me in class asked me to join her and her friends to go and catch bugs. She introduced me to new people. She invited me to eat at meal times. She asked me to hang out. Things were better. I was meeting new people and spending time OUTSIDE of my dorm room and the library. Unfortunately, it was the end of the year. There was no way things would be like this next year. But God had planted those seeds of friendship, and they continued to grow from the previous year.
Once school started again, my fears of having another miserable year dispersed. I had an amazing roommate, I was meeting all kinds of people in my classes, and I was even attending Campus Crusade regularly and getting to know other people. But it wasn't until I attended a women's retreat that things started to really change in my life. I had a big test that week and really didn't want to go, but I just had this strong feeling that I needed to. We were divided into small groups and I listened to other girls talk about their struggles, their histories, how God had entered their lives. I even opened up a little bit too. It was weird being so open, so honest. I learned what "quiet time" was. I got a glimpse of what a Christian woman looked like. I started examining my own life and my own struggles. But most importantly, I began thinking about God a lot more. Why would He love me at all? What was I doing for Him? For others? What was my purpose? How did people read the Bible? Why would I ever want to go to church with people who seemed so solid in their faith when I was so weak? Would I ever overcome these personal struggles?
But God’s timing is so perfect. It was at this time that I was seriously struggling with personal stuff, and He put some solid Christian women in my life. There were some senior girls in particular who each began to invest time in me. They would do simple things like ask how my day was, have me over for dinner, or just hang out. I wasn’t used to this. Why would they care about me? There were some dark things about myself that I wanted to share with them, but my greatest fear was that if they knew, they wouldn't want to be my friend anymore. I eventually shared my testimony with them, and the love they showed me was amazing. They didn't judge me. They didn't criticize me. Instead, they listened. They cared. I began to be more vulnerable with those closest to me, and God continued to strengthen those friendships in which I was most honest and open.
By the end of the year I was blessed with some of the most real friendships I have ever known. I had some solid friendships in high school, but nothing like this. These people knew me. I mean REALLY knew me, and I knew them too. It was so refreshing to have people in my life that I could just be me around. But now it was the end of the year. My senior friends were starting a completely new phase in their life. Friends my age were transferring. Other friends were traveling the world. I knew things would never be this way again, and I became mad at God. Why would He put these people in my life just to take them away?
So now I arrive to my point of this lengthy post. God is going to put people in your life for specific reasons. You may understand why right away. You may realize why He did later. Regardless, there is a purpose for these people. So take a second look at those in your life right now. These relationships won't be this way forever. They may improve. They may suffer. One thing is for sure, they will change, and that's okay. So take a second. Seriously, stop what you're doing for a minute. Pause and dig the moments with those you love most and praise God for putting them in your life. Because it won't be exactly that way forever.
Keep digging the moments friends...
I was thinking about this the other day. Friendships can be so weird but always so rewarding. Amazing, simply amazing. Thanks for sharing beautiful friend. I can't wait to read more. :) Yay blogging!
ReplyDeleteSorry to snoop but your blog came up on my homepage...so I read it. And I really think you and I should have been friends freshman year. I felt like you were typing out my life and my words. Anyway, if you don't mind, I will probably read more of your blogs in the future :) Enjoy your summer, friend.
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